“That’s the problem with putting others first, you’ve taught them that you come second. “
Before we dive in, lets really make clear what type of selfish we’re talking about. Not the kind where you never make time for others, you never offer to lend a helping hand or you just straight up don’t care about others. We’re talking about the selfish where you have your priorities straight. That you realize you only have a limited amount of time to accomplish your goals and that perhaps going out for drinks tonight isn’t in the cards because you feel like grinding.
Being selfish should definitely be listed as a skill on resumes. It shows employers that you care about yourself, you’re passionate about your dreams/goals and you’re not a pushover. Most importantly, they know right off the bat you value time and not just time in general, but your time. They are going to be paying you a nice, hefty salary (hopefully) to be a productive machine with your time while you’re on the clock. So by being selfish, you are going to maximize the $h!t out of your time.
Lets take a few steps back and understand where the concept of selfish is first really pressed upon us. As kids, our parents tell us non-stop to not be selfish. Probably not the best approach. It’s teaching kids right off the bat to think about everyone but themselves. Teaches them to ignore their dreams and passions. Forget that! Go on kids and be selfish, you’ll be much happier.
Being selfish leads to happiness. It grants you the power to chase what really matters to you. If you can’t sort yourself out first, how can you expect to give others what they deserve? Not possible. Don’t be afraid of being selfish.
“To be successful you have to be selfish, or else you never achieve. And once you get to your highest level, then you have to be unselfish. Stay reachable. Stay in touch. Don’t isolate.” ~ Michael Jordan
Time is your most valuable asset. It never replenishes and once it’s gone, it is gone forever. You need to make it an absolute priority that you’re putting enough time towards the things that matter. The things that make you jump out of bed in the morning. Once you can comfortably say that you’re satisfied with where you are, where you’re going and how your life is taking shape, then by all means feel free to be unselfish and present others with the gift of your time.
In closing, if you’re happy with where you are in life, then by all means keep doing what you’re doing. However, if you feel like you’re meant for more, that you’re holding back your own potential, then be prepared/willing/committed to being selfish. You are going to have to make sacrifices. Clearly define where your happiness lies and devote your time to it. Everyone else around you will be much better off in the long run.
Stay focused and hungry my friends!