Thanks. But No Thanks. – The Art of Saying “No” and Not Looking Like a Total B*

It’s that time of year again… the air is crisp… the nights are long… and my pants are beginning to get super tight. Fall is here!! Which only means one thing! Thanksgiving and Christmas – and all that come with them – are right around the corner!! And by “all that come with them” what I really mean is “all that food” that comes with them. I don’t know about you guys, but in the next two weeks I officially have five (yea you read that right – FIVE) separate Thanksgiving & Friendsgiving events to attend. That’s five different occasions within the next two weeks where I’m going to be inundated with casserole upon serving dish upon platter of delicious food made by people I love. People who I just can’t say “no” to without dying a little bit inside. So, what’s my plan to navigate these next two weeks without packing on 10lbs? Well I’m glad you asked. It’s a little thing I’m calling: Thanks. But Not Thanks. – The Art of Saying “No” and Not Looking Like a Total B*


Social situations that revolve around food can get awkward – especially when you’re trying to lose weight, maintain your weight, or you guessed it – prep for a show. After all, food isn’t just “food” – macronutrients, micronutrients, proteins, fats, carbs, etc etc.. Food is love. Sweet sweet delicious belly filling love. Made by people we love and shared with people we love.


The dictionary defines food as: [food] Noun. Any nourishing substance that is eaten, drunk, or otherwise taken into the body to sustain life, provide energy, promote growth, etc.

But we here all know the true definition of food: [food] Noun. Any substance that is eaten or drunk, or otherwise taken into the body in social settings (or not so social settings) to provide emotional connections with others.


So, what is the best way to respond to well-meaning friends, family, and coworkers when presented with an item that doesn’t fit along with our food philosophy or health choices? Do you just accept the offering and slyly feed it under the table to the family dog or do you say no and risk hurting someone’s feelings? Here are a few ways to decline offers of food without coming across like a total B*.

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Smile :o)

Cause everything’s better when you smile, right? Many studies have shown that smiling reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, and releases endorphins. Smiles are also contagious – and people presented with smiling faces are more likely to smile back in return. So how about adding a set of pearly whites when you politely decline? I promise it’ll make a world of difference.


Be honest.  

You don’t have to go into a deep dive of every detail –  that you can’t eat this specific food, or you’re cutting out that specific food, or whatever the case may be. No apologies, just give it to them straight.


Papa don’t preach.

Though you may have good intentions and are passionate about the way you eat, you can still come across like a total a-hole. And who wants that??? NO ONE. No one wants to be around someone being negative about food – especially when they’re walking around with a plate piled high with everything there is to offer. The person who lectures the table about the evils gluten or how mass production of poultry meat causes this disease or that bacteria to grow is the person who doesn’t get invited back next year! So don’t be that person! Ok?


Stand. Your. Ground.

Be polite, but firm. Be kind, but rigid. Don’t let anyone push you around or make you feel like you’re that person who doesn’t know how to let loose or have fun. (Because we all know that just isn’t the case!)


Bring a dish with you to a party that fits along with your food goals. 

Bringing something healthy along to share ensures you have something to munch on that fits into your plan as well as gives you the chance to share your love of healthy eating with others. (I won’t be doing this – my plan is to make a piecaken – but you know… Do as I say, not as I do *wink*)


And finally!!! Relax! Throw on a big comfy sweater and some stretchy pants and remember – It’s the winter! It’s bulking season anyway!




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